What really bothers me is how people always seem to think so negative about themselves, like if they get a compliment they always deny it ”No I’m really not” or ”Right..”
They just won’t see what an incredible and amazing person they really are, how they are needed, and loved just the way they are.
I’m no better, but I’ve learned to accept compliments much easier, and for me that’s a good thing, a sign of improvement.
It’s like when the negative voice sets in, telling you that you’re all flaws, not worth anything, that people deserve better than you. And you start to believe it, and the voice gets replaced with the real you, your real voice telling yourself that you’re no worth.
You only see your flaws, won’t accept that you’re actually good at something, maybe even great. You imprinted it in your own head, telling yourself all those negative things until they become the truth, what you believe is the truth. So yes your mind is a dangerous place to get lost in, and sometimes you can’t even trust yourself.
When flaws are all you see, listen to the people around you telling you that they aren’t flaws, they’re you, they’re your own perfections, what makes you, you. You are perfect the way you are, and nobody is flawless, everyone has imperfections.
Start with small steps, like accepting compliments instead of trying to tell others the opposite, smile and say thank you, believe that they are telling the truth.
Start to believe in the words of others, the positive words, and the compliments. And when people ask you for advice it means you are needed, that you are good at something, like giving advice.
Everyone seems to tell me that everyone has one thing they’re good at, and in my opinion I haven’t found one thing I’m especially good at, but that doesn’t stop me from doing what I love, which is writing and singing, you don’t have to be good or great at something to do it.
Stop thinking that everyone’s so much better than you, because they’re not, and you are good at something; you’re good at being you.
Start telling yourself that you ARE a GOOD person, that you are WORTH something, and you DESERVE to have a GOOD life. Tell yourself small positive things every day, find one thing that’s positive about yourself every day, and remind yourself that thing before you go to sleep. The longer you keep doing this, then slowly you will start to believe in them, just like you did with the negative ones, only this time it’s good for you.
I promise you that it will work, it’s all about your attitude, the way you see things. Start small, and take one step at the time.
It sounds easy, and well it is!
I can assure that you will feel like a complete fool and not believing in what you say to yourself, but if you keep doing it long enough, you will start to believe, your opinion about yourself will change, and you will see yourself in a different light.
Just like if you don’t like maths, and say to yourself “I can’t do it, I don’t understand this!” you won’t understand it because you’ve convinced yourself you can’t, so you can’t.
If you want to make a difference, start with yourself, and only by that you will make the world a better place by helping others passing on this way of changing your ways.
Give it a try and I promise you that you will notice a difference.
Keep your hopes up.
This is me